Your intuition is your greatest financial advisor.

We’re taught to treat money as purely logical: spreadsheets, projections, interest rates, ROI.

All of that matters—but it’s only half the picture.

When you sell your home during divorce, everyone talks about the sale price. But the number that truly matters is how much money actually lands in your bank account after the sale closes. This “walk-away cash” is what you’ll use to fund your next home, pay down debt, invest, or simply create financial breathing room. And the reality is: it’s almost always smaller than most people expect.

Holidays have a way of amplifying everything. The magic feels brighter, the logistics feel heavier, and the emotions tend to sit right at the surface.

For co-parents, this season can bring up a mix of excitement, grief, guilt, joy, hope, frustration, and everything in between. And if you are feeling that cocktail of emotions, you are not alone.

Over the years working with parents, I have noticed something powerful. Holidays are not challenging because you are doing anything wrong. They are challenging because they represent what used to be and what now has to be different.

Divorce is more than an emotional transition- it’s a major financial one. Every decision, from dividing assets to managing debt, affects your long-term financial health. Understanding your net worth, which is the difference between your assets and liabilities, can help you make informed choices that shape your future.

Every single time I start a divorce mediation, my clients tell me that they want things to be fair. It’s a lofty goal, because the decision to end the relationship almost always starts out one-sided. Someone wants to call it quits and is in the driver’s seat, at least at first. So I’ll ask the driver, “what’s your definition of ‘fair’?” And then I’ll ask the passenger the same question. “An equal division of our assets and of our liabilities” is by far the most popular answer

Divorce can bring profound emotional challenges, especially when children and a shared family home are involved. Managing this transition with care is essential—and one approach gaining attention for its child-centered focus is nesting (also known as birdnesting).

What Is Nesting?

Nesting is a co-parenting arrangement designed to maintain stability and continuity for children during a separation or divorce. Rather than having the children move between two homes, they remain in the family residence, while the parents take turns living there based on a mutually agreed schedule.

Selling a home during a divorce involves far more than listing a property. It’s a complex intersection of emotional, legal, and financial challenges—especially in the nuanced Twin Cities metro real estate market. Factors like timing, property values, and location dynamics can significantly influence the outcome. In these situations, couples and their legal professionals need more than a traditional real estate agent. They can benefit from working with a Certified Divorce Real Estate Expert (CDRE®)—a Realtor® trained to manage divorce-related home sales with professionalism, neutrality, and clarity.

One of the biggest hidden barriers to prosperity for women isn’t lack of skills or opportunities — it’s the need for external validation.

Divorce is a significant life change that often involves dividing assets—including the marital home. For divorcing couples in Minneapolis and St. Paul preparing to list their property as part of a divorce, understanding the legal, financial, and practical considerations is essential. Being informed helps protect your interests, reduce stress, and set the stage for a smooth sale.

Here’s a must-read checklist to guide you through the process before listing your home during divorce.

Let’s talk about something that doesn’t always get the attention it deserves: financial security. It’s not just a buzzword or a “nice-to-have.” It’s a necessity—especially for women. Here’s why: on average, women live 5-6 years longer than men. That’s a blessing, but it also comes with unique challenges, particularly when it comes to money.

Let’s dive into why financial security is so crucial and how you can take charge of your financial future.

In today’s shifting market, the question of “Why isn’t the house selling?” is becoming increasingly common—especially in divorce cases. What used to be a predictable process is now full of friction and frustration.

We’re seeing it more frequently: properties that linger on the market far longer than expected. And when a home doesn’t sell, it doesn’t just sit—it stalls everything.

It can intensify conflict between divorcing spouses, frustrate attorneys, delay financial settlements, and tie up equity that’s needed to move forward. So, what’s going on?

When you’re co-parenting, it can sometimes feel like you’re carrying the whole load on your own.

You want your kids to have boundaries.
You want routines, structure, and safety.
You’re picking up the emotional labor—validating feelings, being the steady one, keeping the peace.
You’re trying to communicate with your co-parent.

But let’s be real: it can feel like you’re the only one trying. And it’s exhausting.

Navigating life during divorce can feel like stepping into uncharted territory—no map, no compass, and no clear vision. The peaks of uncertainty and valleys of loneliness can feel overwhelming. Whether the split was amicable or deeply painful, divorce always brings seismic, life-altering change, because it isn't what we planned for.

I know this firsthand. I walked that path.

Navigating life during divorce can feel like stepping into uncharted territory—no map, no compass, and no clear vision. The peaks of uncertainty and valleys of loneliness can feel overwhelming. Whether the split was amicable or deeply painful, divorce always brings seismic, life-altering change, because it isn't what we planned for.

I know this firsthand. I walked that path.

Co-parenting can be one of the most challenging aspects of raising children after divorce or separation. It’s difficult enough to navigate parenting decisions when you share a vision, but what happens when the other parent doesn’t see eye-to-eye with you?

When first hearing the term "Divorce Coach," many are curious, and perhaps you are too. What is it exactly? I've never heard of a Divorce Coach. How does it work? Can it help someone heal from the emotional turmoil of a divorce?

Divorce undoubtedly leaves a significant impact on children. They are caught in the crossfire of emotions, changes in routines, and the loss of a unified family structure. It’s natural for parents to want to shield their children from these difficulties, to smooth the path ahead of them like a lawn mower parent. But as tempting as it may be to protect them from every hardship, it’s crucial to remember that life’s challenges are also opportunities for growth and resilience.

Change is inevitable, and it inevitably creates stress. But that’s not necessarily bad. Whether change is negative (like losing a job) or positive (like graduating from college or getting married), it requires a readjustment of the way we navigate our daily lives. And that creates opportunities for growth as well as challenges to overcome.

I was in a mediation session with a divorcing couple recently, and they were discussing something that was outside of my area of expertise. I started out with “I have a friend who…” The wife interrupted me and said light-heartedly “you have a LOT of friends!”

I do!

I had already referred them to another colleague or 2 to help them through other specific issues, and it was about to happen again.