Every single time I start a divorce mediation, my clients tell me that they want things to be fair. It’s a lofty goal, because the decision to end the relationship almost always starts out one-sided. Someone wants to call it quits and is in the driver’s seat, at least at first. So I’ll ask the driver, “what’s your definition of ‘fair’?” And then I’ll ask the passenger the same question. “An equal division of our assets and of our liabilities” is by far the most popular answer

I was in a mediation session with a divorcing couple recently, and they were discussing something that was outside of my area of expertise. I started out with “I have a friend who…” The wife interrupted me and said light-heartedly “you have a LOT of friends!”

I do!

I had already referred them to another colleague or 2 to help them through other specific issues, and it was about to happen again.

The moment you tell someone you are planning to get divorced, you are likely to hear “time to lawyer up!” But is there a better way? Is it possible to get a divorce in Minnesota without a long and expensive court process? YES!